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Mar 23, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay, Virginia Sole-Smith

I honestly didn’t think I really had much to say about using the word fat because I use it and it just seems fine. But I realized it’s such a different experience for me as an autistic person. I have really only shied away from using it because I learned at a young age that it made other people uncomfortable. My whole life until the past couple years has been learning what makes neurotypical people comfortable and trying to do that. So I used euphemisms for their comfort. It was confusing for me because I knew that I was fat, I knew they knew and this dance felt really weird but that’s neurotypical people for you! Anyway, I generally used plus size for years but it felt so feminine aligned that I just hated it. Then I used fluffy because it felt like other fat people didn’t mind being part of a community that way. Finally once I had the language of fat liberation I felt empowered to say fat. It’s great to feel like I don’t have to use euphemisms especially as a fat autistic person who does equity work!

Also, Apple News just recommended an article about Ozempic from the New Yorker written by a size 4 journalist. It’s awful. Why? I’m just screaming why? So warning for anyone who sees that.

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Oh that's so interesting/make so much sense about your experience with the euphemisms vs real word as an autistic person. Thanks for sharing. And yes - Jia's article was a big let down. She's done amazing work in the past and this... is not that.

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Mar 23, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay, Virginia Sole-Smith

I look so much like Little Witch Hazel I think I might try to find green overalls to wear this summer and just take her whole look.

Honestly though, I’ve read *hundreds* of picture books in the last few years, this is one of the first times I’ve seen someone who looks like me. I’m not a Bad Example, illustrators!

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I had the same feeling reading that book for the first time. I love her so so much! Desperately wanted to do a LWH halloween costume one year but couldn't convince my kid to be a toadstool. Goals!

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Mar 23, 2023Liked by Virginia Sole-Smith

Just looked up this book and the leg hairs are giving me life.

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THE LEG HAIR. It's truly magic.

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I appreciate the leggings science, at least based on the sizing info I am hopeful girlfriend collective will work for me, I bought leggings a month ago that are fine to wear around the house/errands but they fall down a ton if I work out so I’m on my quest again! I had read most of these comments on the post a few weeks ago and I enjoyed hearing the voices of the community! The dr office story was particularly relatable for me, I started going to my PCP when I had been recently married and had lost 2 lbs and was “normal” BMI for the first time in my life for about 2 years. as my weight crept up again it was hard to see obese on the summary record even though I had been coded as overweight my whole life! Being coded as obese on the forms during my pregnancies was also hard to wrap my head around. in the last 4 years since I had my second child I became so much more conscious of diet culture and telling friends and family I’m not trying to be smaller anymore, my thin SIL tried to tell me a few weeks ago I wasn’t fat and I said yeah I am, and I’m ok with it, I’m not offended by the word fat anymore.

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Such huge progress! (And hope the leggings work for you!)

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Mar 23, 2023Liked by Virginia Sole-Smith

This turned out great! It was fun to hear myself on the podcast! FWIW, I did not have great luck with the Girlfriend Collective. I'm at the tip top of their size range, and they technically fit, but were tighter than I prefer. I do love Universal Standard's leggings, though, and everything I've bought from them has been a huge hit.

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Ooh good to know about GC and the 6X. (But also MEH.) Universal Standard continues to be the gold standard! And thank you so much -- loved having you on the pod!

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Thanks to your writing and the commenting community and everybody you interview, a while back I started a practice when I went to the doctor's office of just saying "I'm not interested in knowing" and turning my back when they have me stand on the scale. I feel so fortunate that not once have I had anyone question that or try to talk to me about weight when I'm there for very different reasons, like a broken wrist. I need to thank them for that.

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