We just bought a house with a two-story foyer (townhouse, definitely no McMansion). We walled in the 2nd story open railing because I’m pretty sure my 4yo would try to climb it or see if our cat could fly from it. I desperately wanted to do a floor and hidden library instead, but alas, I would have had to spend our real world money. It’s still a long-term possibility, though...
I enjoyed this episode so much! Also, the hidden kitchen thing is...wow. I do have a butler's pantry in my house built in 1909 and we stash the air fryer and instant pot there, but it's not a whole separate kitchen. I did love when we moved into our current house not to have the kitchen open to the living room and dining room so I don't have to stare at the mess when entertaining,.
This was a great episode, it is so frustrating when straight-sized people's body image issues get centered in the conversation instead of actual systemic anti-fat bias! The Taylor Swift video did bring up a lot of that frustration, and the discourse around it on twitter got really toxic really quick.
(also, love to hear from Dr. Jeff! I graduated from Miami a few years ago and it was only about a year later that I discovered fat positivity and the anti diet world. Wish I could have met him while I was a student there - he's doing such important work!)
LOVED this today!!!!! I just had a heated conversation with my housemate this morning about the drug Mounjaro. It was featured on CBS Overnight News, and even showed a woman who had lost I think 143lbs since starting injections of it. I wondered if it was the same one my best friend was taking (she started injections of a Type2 Diabetes drug for weight loss a few months ago), and he asked me how she was doing on it. I told him that she'd lost 27lbs. He said, "Wow, that's great! Why don't you ask your doctor about getting that?" I told him I didn't want to--I'm fine with how I am. It took me a long time to get to that point, too! Besides, why would I want to put my body through another round of weight-cycling, which is terribly bad for me? I've tried and done every diet and weight loss program there is, and while I might lose weight--I always regain it. I have been in a bigger body my entire life. It's a good body, and I need to take care of it--not subject it to things that may harm it. My best friend is constantly nauseated as a side effect of this drug--I imagine that does something to your appetite as well :'( My housemate is a person who, like many, think I should do whatever it takes to lose weight. He looks at all overweight and fat people the same way--they can't possibly be healthy, or happy.
That is so frustratingly unkind. I struggle sometimes with the knowledge that my body is some of my thin friend's worst nightmare because that absolutely can't imagine being fat and healthy and/or fat and happy.
I feel for you, Wendy, because you obviously have a heart for your friends and still want to spend time with them in spite of their feelings and misconceptions. You're a ray of light though, and they may see the truth because of you some day!
And this man will eat an entire frozen pizza and 2 containers of Ben and Jerry's ice cream for dinner (which is fine by the way--I'm good with both of those food choices, and if you're hungry, eat!) but will scrutinize and criticize every morsel I put in my mouth. It makes me sad, alot. I'm also currently in PT due to having total knee replacement surgery, and I do home therapy exercise as part of that. He asked me if I was going to continue to exercise after I recover. I said not these same therapy exercises, no, there would be no need. I will still ride my new exercise bike though, because found I really enjoy it, and that once I'm better I'll be able to get out and garden, walk, and do the things I used to like doing before I was too wrecked to do them. He told me that probably wasn't enough, and that I should have some sort of structured routine so I could be more "healthy." He said he was saying this only to try to help me. I said nothing.
I'm a Taylor Swift fan and I agreed with everything you said, so it's not all fans 💀 but I was literally ran off of a Taylor swift forum (that considers itself more progressive than most fans) for saying what y'all are saying. it was very shocking but also not shocking at all.
We just bought a house with a two-story foyer (townhouse, definitely no McMansion). We walled in the 2nd story open railing because I’m pretty sure my 4yo would try to climb it or see if our cat could fly from it. I desperately wanted to do a floor and hidden library instead, but alas, I would have had to spend our real world money. It’s still a long-term possibility, though...
I want this for you SO MUCH and I want all the photos if/when! It happens!
I enjoyed this episode so much! Also, the hidden kitchen thing is...wow. I do have a butler's pantry in my house built in 1909 and we stash the air fryer and instant pot there, but it's not a whole separate kitchen. I did love when we moved into our current house not to have the kitchen open to the living room and dining room so I don't have to stare at the mess when entertaining,.
Oh JEALOUS of a butler’s pantry. Our whole downstairs is open concept and you can never hide from the mess.
A weight researcher named Hunger... what an aptonym!
This was a great episode, it is so frustrating when straight-sized people's body image issues get centered in the conversation instead of actual systemic anti-fat bias! The Taylor Swift video did bring up a lot of that frustration, and the discourse around it on twitter got really toxic really quick.
(also, love to hear from Dr. Jeff! I graduated from Miami a few years ago and it was only about a year later that I discovered fat positivity and the anti diet world. Wish I could have met him while I was a student there - he's doing such important work!)
I did ACT for other therapy needs, and let me tell you, it was so paradigm-shifting and necessary!
LOVED this today!!!!! I just had a heated conversation with my housemate this morning about the drug Mounjaro. It was featured on CBS Overnight News, and even showed a woman who had lost I think 143lbs since starting injections of it. I wondered if it was the same one my best friend was taking (she started injections of a Type2 Diabetes drug for weight loss a few months ago), and he asked me how she was doing on it. I told him that she'd lost 27lbs. He said, "Wow, that's great! Why don't you ask your doctor about getting that?" I told him I didn't want to--I'm fine with how I am. It took me a long time to get to that point, too! Besides, why would I want to put my body through another round of weight-cycling, which is terribly bad for me? I've tried and done every diet and weight loss program there is, and while I might lose weight--I always regain it. I have been in a bigger body my entire life. It's a good body, and I need to take care of it--not subject it to things that may harm it. My best friend is constantly nauseated as a side effect of this drug--I imagine that does something to your appetite as well :'( My housemate is a person who, like many, think I should do whatever it takes to lose weight. He looks at all overweight and fat people the same way--they can't possibly be healthy, or happy.
The unexamined "weight loss drugs are a silver bullet!" perspective is SO steeped in bias (and misconceptions). I do need to report on that more.
That is so frustratingly unkind. I struggle sometimes with the knowledge that my body is some of my thin friend's worst nightmare because that absolutely can't imagine being fat and healthy and/or fat and happy.
I feel for you, Wendy, because you obviously have a heart for your friends and still want to spend time with them in spite of their feelings and misconceptions. You're a ray of light though, and they may see the truth because of you some day!
And this man will eat an entire frozen pizza and 2 containers of Ben and Jerry's ice cream for dinner (which is fine by the way--I'm good with both of those food choices, and if you're hungry, eat!) but will scrutinize and criticize every morsel I put in my mouth. It makes me sad, alot. I'm also currently in PT due to having total knee replacement surgery, and I do home therapy exercise as part of that. He asked me if I was going to continue to exercise after I recover. I said not these same therapy exercises, no, there would be no need. I will still ride my new exercise bike though, because found I really enjoy it, and that once I'm better I'll be able to get out and garden, walk, and do the things I used to like doing before I was too wrecked to do them. He told me that probably wasn't enough, and that I should have some sort of structured routine so I could be more "healthy." He said he was saying this only to try to help me. I said nothing.
I'm a Taylor Swift fan and I agreed with everything you said, so it's not all fans 💀 but I was literally ran off of a Taylor swift forum (that considers itself more progressive than most fans) for saying what y'all are saying. it was very shocking but also not shocking at all.