13 year olds so rarely stop to think that someone else might like to have an Oreo or two after their long day of work, especially after that person just bought a box on their last grocery trip three days ago... it’s rude to finish the whole package without any concrete plan to replenish the supply
My daughter is 10 (not 13) and 5’1” and weighs 155 lbs. There are many things she’d eat the whole (whatever) of and they’re not vegetables, that’s for sure. She has been talking with a pediatric liver specialist who has informed me and her that she has fatty liver and is headed for a liver transplant before she’s 30. I wanted to allow her to learn that food is not magic - good or evil and so avoided restricting. But I’m not the only person who feeds her and she hears all sorts of messages about food, from doctors to grandparents to YouTube (the modern TV). My mom started to bring me to Weight Watchers when I was a bit younger than my daughter is now. I have fatty liver too but at 51 so far have my original one. I doubt my daughter will ever eat even close to what her nutritionist planned with her for her daily meals (plain chicken with salad when she knows full well there are cheeseburgers and pizza in the world?!?). Honestly I’m at a loss.
Argh, that’s so tough. You are right that restriction (plain chicken etc) will only make things worse. The Intuitive Eating Book For Teens might be a good resource, as well as Ellyn Satter’s work on the Division Of Responsibility In Feeding model.
I get so bummed when I hear about parents who overly restrict their kids because that was my father--he would confront me about candy wrappers he'd discovered at the bottom of the trash can. It took me many years of CBD therapy to undo what eventually became BED. I'm super grateful I got to the place now where a treat is a treat and not a measure of good or bad and hope my kids don't end up torturing themselves like I did.
Ugh, yes. Parents need to see sneaking food as a sign a kid is being too restricted, not as some kind of "bad behavior." So glad you're in a good place now!
Just stumbled across your platform and I love it. Part of the problem is mainstream advertising depicting mealtimes as a major period of argument, bribery and the complete abdication of parental roles. There is so much of society to unpack as it relates to food: the idea that cooking is women's work, but only in the home not in a professional kitchen; the vast majority of men unable to prepare even a bowl of cereal and a slice of toast for themselves; and the utter reliance on empty calories like a 64 oz soda and a jumbo bag of chips. I write a lot about culture, and the elements that make it up in my belief. I just wrote a piece on intersectionality and how Gen X fits into the mix. I would be honored if you checked it out.
13 year olds so rarely stop to think that someone else might like to have an Oreo or two after their long day of work, especially after that person just bought a box on their last grocery trip three days ago... it’s rude to finish the whole package without any concrete plan to replenish the supply
Ha! Excellent point that I neglected to cover. We don’t want to restrict kids but it’s perfectly fine to make sure they know they have to share!
My daughter is 10 (not 13) and 5’1” and weighs 155 lbs. There are many things she’d eat the whole (whatever) of and they’re not vegetables, that’s for sure. She has been talking with a pediatric liver specialist who has informed me and her that she has fatty liver and is headed for a liver transplant before she’s 30. I wanted to allow her to learn that food is not magic - good or evil and so avoided restricting. But I’m not the only person who feeds her and she hears all sorts of messages about food, from doctors to grandparents to YouTube (the modern TV). My mom started to bring me to Weight Watchers when I was a bit younger than my daughter is now. I have fatty liver too but at 51 so far have my original one. I doubt my daughter will ever eat even close to what her nutritionist planned with her for her daily meals (plain chicken with salad when she knows full well there are cheeseburgers and pizza in the world?!?). Honestly I’m at a loss.
Argh, that’s so tough. You are right that restriction (plain chicken etc) will only make things worse. The Intuitive Eating Book For Teens might be a good resource, as well as Ellyn Satter’s work on the Division Of Responsibility In Feeding model.
I get so bummed when I hear about parents who overly restrict their kids because that was my father--he would confront me about candy wrappers he'd discovered at the bottom of the trash can. It took me many years of CBD therapy to undo what eventually became BED. I'm super grateful I got to the place now where a treat is a treat and not a measure of good or bad and hope my kids don't end up torturing themselves like I did.
Ugh, yes. Parents need to see sneaking food as a sign a kid is being too restricted, not as some kind of "bad behavior." So glad you're in a good place now!
Just stumbled across your platform and I love it. Part of the problem is mainstream advertising depicting mealtimes as a major period of argument, bribery and the complete abdication of parental roles. There is so much of society to unpack as it relates to food: the idea that cooking is women's work, but only in the home not in a professional kitchen; the vast majority of men unable to prepare even a bowl of cereal and a slice of toast for themselves; and the utter reliance on empty calories like a 64 oz soda and a jumbo bag of chips. I write a lot about culture, and the elements that make it up in my belief. I just wrote a piece on intersectionality and how Gen X fits into the mix. I would be honored if you checked it out.
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Ric
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"Empty calories" still give you energy. Shaming people for what they eat is wrong, full stop.