In terms of the cost-related restriction, I also have this question and have been doing a lot of work around it. Because the reality is that "boring" food like rice and beans are cheaper than prepackaged snack foods, especially with shrinkflation continuing to be a thing. So I'm really trying to figure out how to explain to my kids that like, we're not at risk of going hungry, but we can't buy unlimited Cheetos and Oreos and whatever because they're expensive. I try to make sure we have some fun snack food each week, but have to supplement a lot with homemade food, which I don't feel is "better" nutritionally but it is... fine. Like, it's good food. And I do get frustrated sometimes because I'm like, I can make you a bowl of yogurt from the massive tub but I can't afford three gogurts per child a day, even though I understand that the gogurt is more fun!
Also just here to say tacos are a favorite for everyone in my family and I’ve never encountered anyone who couldn’t eat a whole taco! This made me tell my mom we need to eat tacos on our beach trip this weekend.
This dialogue with mom friends about tacos. I definitely don’t have thin mom friends at this point who don’t eat. I frankly can’t do it. I am a mom who hasn’t tried to “get my body back” so hanging around people who care about that as their biggest goal is not going to be helpful.
I volunteer with a lovely mom friend at church, but we could never really hang out like that because she is still so pressed about diet culture. She lost a lot of weight after having her second child and posted in our church Facebook group recently about how losing weight is hard, but we can do hard things, and there are so many comments from other moms saying “I still have more to lose, it’s so hard!”
I will always push back against the notion that we need to be doing that at all! Your body can change, and I think it’s so important that we do surround ourselves with likeminded friends.
I hear it some at book club but at least at my book club there are fat people there so that aspect of fat community exists. I am working at gently telling people they don’t have to lose weight when they claim they still need to lose weight after having their kid or before they take family pics. And I had a conversation last month about how taking actual professional pics can help to see yourself in a better light because it’s not the weird angles you get with your husband/MIL/mom whoever is not at all focused on the composition of the photo. And I have gotten good at saying something anytime a family member says anything but I haven’t heard much sketchy from them lately so maybe I’m getting through to the in-laws!
I am VERY LATE to this conversation! BUT BUT BUT!!! I also did a spate of powerlifting competitions (pre-covid, before a previously undiagnosed medical condition sidelined me for, like, two years. Thanks, doc who spent a decade telling me I just needed to lose weight and overlooked a brain tumor. That caused weight gain.) I too could not find gear that fit properly, but I turned myself into a garment sewer when I got too big for good RTW clothing, so I just made my own singlet and socks. A CUTE singlet too, BTW. Whatever federation your comp is under will have all the specs for your lifting costume in the rules, which are most likely on their website. Also let me know if you want to know how to make your own! If you have basic active wear garment sewing skills you can totally make a singlet.
In terms of the cost-related restriction, I also have this question and have been doing a lot of work around it. Because the reality is that "boring" food like rice and beans are cheaper than prepackaged snack foods, especially with shrinkflation continuing to be a thing. So I'm really trying to figure out how to explain to my kids that like, we're not at risk of going hungry, but we can't buy unlimited Cheetos and Oreos and whatever because they're expensive. I try to make sure we have some fun snack food each week, but have to supplement a lot with homemade food, which I don't feel is "better" nutritionally but it is... fine. Like, it's good food. And I do get frustrated sometimes because I'm like, I can make you a bowl of yogurt from the massive tub but I can't afford three gogurts per child a day, even though I understand that the gogurt is more fun!
The reality of all of the parents I know. Thank you.
Also just here to say tacos are a favorite for everyone in my family and I’ve never encountered anyone who couldn’t eat a whole taco! This made me tell my mom we need to eat tacos on our beach trip this weekend.
As a fellow big-leg weightlifter, I highly recommend Sock It To Me's wide-calf knee socks.
I don't have a singlet, my gym's rules let me use bike shorts and any t-shirt.
This dialogue with mom friends about tacos. I definitely don’t have thin mom friends at this point who don’t eat. I frankly can’t do it. I am a mom who hasn’t tried to “get my body back” so hanging around people who care about that as their biggest goal is not going to be helpful.
I volunteer with a lovely mom friend at church, but we could never really hang out like that because she is still so pressed about diet culture. She lost a lot of weight after having her second child and posted in our church Facebook group recently about how losing weight is hard, but we can do hard things, and there are so many comments from other moms saying “I still have more to lose, it’s so hard!”
I will always push back against the notion that we need to be doing that at all! Your body can change, and I think it’s so important that we do surround ourselves with likeminded friends.
I hear it some at book club but at least at my book club there are fat people there so that aspect of fat community exists. I am working at gently telling people they don’t have to lose weight when they claim they still need to lose weight after having their kid or before they take family pics. And I had a conversation last month about how taking actual professional pics can help to see yourself in a better light because it’s not the weird angles you get with your husband/MIL/mom whoever is not at all focused on the composition of the photo. And I have gotten good at saying something anytime a family member says anything but I haven’t heard much sketchy from them lately so maybe I’m getting through to the in-laws!
I am VERY LATE to this conversation! BUT BUT BUT!!! I also did a spate of powerlifting competitions (pre-covid, before a previously undiagnosed medical condition sidelined me for, like, two years. Thanks, doc who spent a decade telling me I just needed to lose weight and overlooked a brain tumor. That caused weight gain.) I too could not find gear that fit properly, but I turned myself into a garment sewer when I got too big for good RTW clothing, so I just made my own singlet and socks. A CUTE singlet too, BTW. Whatever federation your comp is under will have all the specs for your lifting costume in the rules, which are most likely on their website. Also let me know if you want to know how to make your own! If you have basic active wear garment sewing skills you can totally make a singlet.