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I love this today (like always!!!), and I think one of the reasons why is how you both do seem to think alike on so many things, or at least similar, and it is a true joy each and every time I listen to Indulgence Gospel--no matter what subject(s) you're covering! :D

IN for me is more reading old/classic books. OUT for me is reading political newsletters. IN for me is more talking to people on the phone. OUT for me is constant texting/messaging (we'll see how this goes!). IN for me is decluttering/downsizing. OUT for me is buying unless necessary (gonna make an honest effort at this, although I now feel it's necessary to have a Fay Chore Coat!!!).

I'm in love with that woodpecker photo, and think it's absolutely wonderful that you're both into birds!!! <3 I can't wait to see where this takes you! I don't know if it's proper etiquette to recommend another newsletter on here, but I love Life in the Real World by Karen Davis. Her bird (and nature in general) photography is phenomenal, and her writing is very peaceful and soothing as well.

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One of my In / Outs last year was phone calls / text messages and that one is DEFINITELY carrying over! It's just so much easier!!!

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Except with meeeee sorry sorry for all the texts

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That's what I'm hoping for! Plus, maybe I'll feel a little more connected with the people I'm communicating with?

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I have started doing more phone and I’m still a Power Texter but I agree, phone can be nice!

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Always appropriate to recommend another newsletter, thanks Roxy!!

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I literally listened to this on my way to swim laps in my apology ruched swimsuit! I laughed so hard. Out indeed!

IN: watching movies over two nights; OUT: staying up late and being grouchy about it

IN: calm app; OUT: instagram (not entirely, just less)

IN: asking people on friend dates even if I don't know them super well; OUT: assuming everyone is busy all the time

I am NOT KIDDING when I say that the last one is based on the fact that I asked an acquaintance (who I would like to be better friends with) to go to Split Rock Books with me for the Fat Talk event and she said yes! :D

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Oooooh watching a movie over two nights is in for me too!!!

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YAYYYY, I love that we are facilitating your friend date!

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Ok so she just cancelled BUT is reading the book and wants to talk about it so I'll call it a win. Also I will count it as a win for me getting up the guts to ask people to do stuff. 🙌

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Total win!! And still come if you can, we’ll be your collective bookstore friend date!

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Maybe this episode will be the thing to finally push me to install/mount the bird buddy my dad gave me for Christmas 2023.

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Also I’ve never played this with a child and I don’t know if you want to subscribe yourself for playing a sort of complicated/longer board game, but if you and your 11 yo are both into birds you might like Wingspan. It’s a very pretty game and it’s fun.

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We tried it when she was too young and both got intimidated! I’m curious to try again though. It’s sooo pretty!

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I recently got wingspan and it is great, I bet you could play now--but it is a little complicated and I feel like it might be helpful to play with someone who has played before. To me thats much easier than trying to read through a bunch of instructions!

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Yeah it’s on the complex side. It’s not too bad once you get the hang of it which I guess is true of many board games. I will be interested to hear what you think if you play it again!

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I saw the fay coat while browsing connally goods *yesterday* and almost posted it on big undies to say Corinne this coat is so you but I thought that was too parasocial lol

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hehe thank you!

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LOL I love this so much.

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"Take me under their wing" 😂😂😂

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🙈

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For those worried about feeding birds because of avian flu, please don’t worry. Avian flu has mostly impacted waterfowl and hawks not songbirds. You should be concerned only if you keep chickens. The seed that drops can spread diseases among the birds but cleaning your feeders a couple of times a year solves that. There was a disease spreading between house finches so check their eyes. Any strange eyes, stop the feeds and clean everything. Bigger concerns are outdoor cats or small hawks killing the birds or window strikes knocking them out. Kudos to Corinne for finding a photo of golden-winged warbler which is a beautiful and very hard to find bird.

Marian

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I love ruching. I am here for it. It’s one of my go-to search keywords for online shopping. I KNOW it’s a thing to make plus-sized clothes more “flattering” and cheaper to fit….and the latter factor at least really does work for me. Like a dress with some ruching or smocking in the bodice or around the waist will stay where it’s supposed to without being binding or constricting, vs. a loose or no waist dress that will slowly creep up or backwards over my giant boobs until the collar is strangling me.

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i love this ruching reframing!

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We all have such varied tastes and experiences!!! Glad to know there are people out there who love it.

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omg I LOVE that Corinne has a clothing item named for her!

I admit that I rebel against both the bingos and the in/outs for reasons I'm not to sure about, but I also sort of love reading them? and I really enjoyed your conversation! maybe it is that some people/orgs that post them, they do feel proscriptive? maybe I'm just contrary lol. I really did enjoy reading this though :)

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I hard relate to the rebelling against and I hope you embrace your contrariness if that feels right!

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Yes yes yes to birding! I got into birding last year and it has changed my life. It is so much fun, easy to do, helps you appreciate nature, and creates a never-ending real-life treasure hunt. I encourage anyone with even a passing interest to try it out and see if it becomes a passion!

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I'm glad my question about how Virginia uses her new air fryer was answered haha I hadn't thought of using it for cookies! Sadly I don't have any countertops (hashtag living in Paris in a tiny flat) but I'm yearning.....

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I think living in Paris may be a fair trade for no air fryer space!

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Hahaha it's true... but I want to reheat fries and cookies!!!

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“It’s organizing is not a solution to having too much stuff, I guess.”

This is it. I am about to do a closet purge, and I’m a little bit dreading it, but also, I just know stuff needs to go before I try to reorganize it all. I have 300 pairs of pajamas (a slight exaggeration) and I have to just thank them for their loyal service and let many of them go. I think it was Dacy’s substack or chat, and I ended up looking up the 333 Project… and I really liked the 4 questions - particularly, would you buy it again now? That one is going to fuel a lot of what I get rid of. My life has changed a lot in the last 10 years. I no longer have to dress for an office (YAY!) which means that a whole lot of things are just hanging there staring at me. The closet overhaul will be an interesting experience this time around.

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I have this swimsuit from Universal Standard, one piece, and it’s really cute and nicely adjustable because of the straps. NO ROUCHING! Although they do have apology rouching on other suits.

https://www.universalstandard.com/products/the-swimsuit-classic-navy

So on board with passion fruit, Corinne. 🙌

I love the idea of buying local farm raised meats but my family eats way too much meat to do that. Glad some people can though. I would prefer to eat less meat but that’s a long story no one is interested in. I did look into a nearby farm but once I started getting their emails, noticed there were some things I wasn’t on board with. Such as, having Joel Salatin come and speak there. Raised some red flags for me. But I’m normally on board for supporting small businesses!

Love the food gifting. My sister got me some really good cinnamon from Penzey’s and it was the gift I didn’t know I needed.

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OH yes, the Joel Salatin influence on small farms is tricky business!! I happen to know this butcher has great progressive politics, which def helps.

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Yes, good fresh cinnamon is spectacular!

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I just ordered more! I can’t get over how much tastier it is.

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Love that Corinne has a clothing item named after her!

Passionfruit is my very favorite flavor. Maui Pie in Kihei does a lilikoi pie that is basically like a key lime pie but with passionfruit and it is the most wonderful thing to me. Also Ellenos brand yogurt w passionfruit.

Cookies are the thing I use my air fryer for the MOST. I like to buy the pillsbury “big” cookie dough (12/pack) and cook as many as I like on those little 1/4 sheets with a silpat. Minimal cleanup. Maximum fresh warm cookies.

2025 started for me with getting lots of PTO scheduled and getting some trips on the books because I did not take all my time last year. I literally was planning trips and sipping champagne on NYE. So vacation time is IN. Overworking is out.

And because I live in LA, it’s been a wild insane start to the year where I’m very grateful for life and safety and community. And I’m reminded to foster community everywhere I can.

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OK the Pillbury tip is gold thank you. Sending love, what a rough start to the year! (But travel sounds great.)

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OMG, that Ellenos yogurt is unbelievably good. I love it!!

I'm so sorry that your year started with wildfires--but glad that you're finding safety and community!

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Omg "apology ruching!" 😂😂😂

OUT OUT OUT!

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OUTTTT

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Also, I wanted to thank you for printing the transcript. I just don’t like podcasts, but I read this whole thing, so thank you!

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I actually prefer one piece swim suits, they feel more comfortable when swimming, nothing to do with looks.

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