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Jan 26, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay

I have such complicated feelings about Chick Fil A. There's one near my stepsons' house and it is by far my kids' favorite fast food place, it has a really nice variety and it's actually good quality (my kids eat the whole entire fruit cup, I get a kale salad thing, we all split a few orders of fries with our chicken). There's a play place!! Remember play places in Mcdonalds? what even happened to those? we can go get lunch and then I can just read my book for 30 minutes while my kids run it off.

But, like. The politics. Ugh.

The reality is, I hate the politics of most fast food places and most large corporations. There's a big headline now about McDonalds and Chipotle and other beloved places in my family, spending millions on lobbying to keep wages suppressed. Wage theft, wage suppression, etc. These companies directly abuse their individual employees and are a cancer on our whole political system in general and I feel pretty much just as strongly (ie VERY STRONGLY) about that as I do about the civil rights of non-heterosexual, non-cisgendered people. My older stepson is working age in high school and he told me that Chick Fil A is one of the more coveted jobs among his friend group, because they tend to pay better than most equivalent places. It is all just shitty and sucky to try to weigh how many different ways people are being exploited, and try to factor that into our freaking dinner plans when the kids are hangry and the day is long. Like can I just buy my kid some fries, please.

I get to where I come with most of this stuff, which is basically the "there is no ethical consumption under capitalism" place. I'm not going to be like "sorry kids, you can't have strawberries and mandarins with your nuggets and fries, because this one restaurant oppresses people in more ways than that also-oppressive restaurant does." It feels a bit like choosing between Walmart and Amazon. Like, neither of these choices is so much more or less ethical than the other that it makes sense to sacrifice some quality of life over it. We are big fans of acting like ethics are just individual choices, aka individual personal sacrifices, whereas the system itself is just inherently unethical because DUH CAPITALISM! But it just feels bad all around and I really hate it.

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Jan 26, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay

This is also my opinion!

So I'm a southerner but I'm very specifically a Georgian. Chick-fil-a and I are from the same state, and I can confirm that Chick-fil-a feels like a cultural comfort food to a lot of Georgia natives. It's everywhere here.

I'm queer myself, and have several queer friends. We all gave it up back in 2012ish when Dan Cathy made that comment, some of us for years, but eventually we all kind of came back around. It's just high-quality fast food, it's nostalgic, and it's satisfying. It's also very fast, even when the lines are long. It's been dinner many an exhausted weeknight when we were too tired to deal but didn't want to pay for a pizza or whatever.

I don't hold the same values as the owner, so I have some cognitive dissonance about contributing to his bank account, but I don't actually struggle with that too terribly much. I have cognitive dissonance about lots of companies I use, after all. I still order from Amazon, and good luck to anybody trying to cut Nestle products out of their household.

So I get the take that it's unethical to eat there, and if someone isn't missing it in their life, there's no reason to add it in. I think that's an admirable choice, the same way I admire people who never shop fast fashion and don't have an Amazon Prime membership. But we're probably going to keep eating there.

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Yes, exactly. I have to say that I really like their nuggets etc way better than basically any other fast food, the waffle fries are second only to McD's fries, they have those fancy seasonal milkshake flavors... I don't know. I am uncomfortable talking about it just like how much discomfort I have over my Prime subscription.

I didn't grow up in the south - born in Brooklyn and mostly raised in the Hudson Valley, here - so I can't even use nostalgia as an excuse. But I spent my early adulthood, the 2000-2010 years, working in South Carolina every summer, and those post-drinking-night trips to Chick Fil A to stave off hangovers really solidified a fondness for the chain. At the time, there wasn't much awareness or press about their politics (I mean they were obviously Christian, closed on Sundays, etc but it could have been at least plausibly assumed to be a tolerant form of Christianity) and I just remember looking forward to it as a kind of seasonal celebration every time I traveled back down south, and being SO PSYCHED when I heard they were making inroads up north. And then....like, no, we can't ever just have uncomplicated good feelings about things, because :gestures at everything:

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It really does suck that being a consumer in America is such a fraught experience. <3

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On this, I've been listening to the audiobook of Break 'em Up: Recovering Our Freedom from Big Ag, Big Tech, and Big Money by Zephyr Teachout recently, and it has been really eye opening and clarifying. And emphasizes how we have come to think of consumers first and citizens second instead of the other way around.

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Love these comments and what they said in the episode. People (usually straight, self-professed allies tbh) use CFA as a weird line in the sand on social media and I just... I'm queer, I have trans kids, and we boycotted for years. Now their donor list still isn't pretty but it looks like everyone else's and I just don't have the energy to be fussed about it.

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Another southerner who gave it up at that time (I was in college and it was at our dining hall and I missed getting minis when I had early shifts) and then chick fil a made some sort of promise or did SOMETHING and I started eating there again.

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Jan 26, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay

Thanks for always publishing the transcript along with the audio! I mix and match which I use, so I appreciate both. Today was a reading day!

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Jan 26, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay

I’m still listening to this episode, and totally agree with the “no conscious consumerism under capitalism” and feel that agitation for social/structural change is where it’s at.

And also under “conscious-ish consumerism” and cozy clothes, I have been living in these sweatpants all winter (as in, I have 4 pairs). The sizing goes up to 6X and they use recycled plastic and remnants and whatever else, and they can be pricey but the stuff lasts and you can catch good sales. I have a 28” inseam, so these hit a wee bit above the ankle, but not in cropped territory.

https://girlfriend.com/products/wine-50-50-classic-jogger

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Love love love girlfriend collective!!

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Jan 26, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay, Virginia Sole-Smith

Literally the only thing I remember about that night was that there was Sprite in that drink and I was wearing your shirt. (Or I loved that one tank shirt of yours so much it's the only shirt I'm wearing in any of our night out memories from that time period.) I will make you Pastina Soup though!

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This is why you’re the best. (I am pretty sure you stole that shirt though and by shirt we mean Going Out Top, let us remember this was… 2007?)

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I did steal the shirt. I wish I still had it!

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I think we need to resist the idea that how and what we consume is in and of itself a politics, or that it's enough of a politics. It really does keep us from questioning bigger structures and systems.

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Jan 26, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay

Your story about tequila made me remember mine. We hit the buy-one-pitcher-get-one-free happy hour as it was almost over so we ordered two. That gave us four pitchers for four people. This resulted in me running down a street in Old Sacramento yelling “Father Serra.” (We were heading to a Mexican restaurant with a statue of him in front.) The next day was decidedly not fun.

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Jan 26, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay

The tequila in the nalgene bottle made me remember the night that made me vow never again to drink wine from a keg cup. Well, made me remember the morning after. Oof.

The Chik-fil-a discussion here is funny because over the holidays, one of my husband's cousins got married, and apparently at one point they planned to have the wedding catered by Chik-fil-a, and one of his aunts got wind of this and called the bride's mother going "I didn't know [the groom] was a Republican!" like this was the only possible explanation. And the bride's mother freaked out so much that the catering got changed.

For the record I've never understood the fuss about their food. I remember it as mediocre at best by fast food standards.

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Non-traditional drink dispensers lead so many of us down a dark path...

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I’ve eaten there a couple of times and didn’t think it was that great either.

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Jan 26, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay, Virginia Sole-Smith

This is definitely the wrong place but I am on an instagram break and don't know where else to post it (COVID brain maybe) so I just wanted to say EXCELLENT opinion piece in the NY Times today, Virginia. So good. I think it must be really hard to draft a piece like that in a mainstream forum like the times which is, basically, anti-fat and, as I know from comments on many articles, has a readership that will be knee-jerk hostile to many of your ideas. I think you did an incredible job and that you will change some minds. (I hope hope hope anyway.)

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Thank you Genevieve! This means so much. (And this is totally the right place -- now the NYT piece has run, we are going to GET INTO IT on these AAP guidelines here...)

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Jan 27, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay

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Jan 26, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay

loved all of this, but like many others, I'm going to share my chick fil a thoughts. you know, for science. isn't that what we're doing here? (lolol)

I'm a southerner, but didn't grow up with chick fil a (or popeyes for that matter....kfc was about it). I do like the food ok--esp how quick and consistent it is. I like popeyes much better. but this small town I live in, the one without even a target, has zero popeyes and two chick fil as

yes, no ethical consumption under capitalism! at the same time, I do try to limit things for myself that I know are doing harm, and I think that's where the original question came from. It seems like boycotts and such can help (esp when in solidarity with workers), but but....it is a cycle in my mind. I find myself thinking of the way they talked about this in the last season of the good place

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Jan 26, 2023Liked by Corinne Fay

For those of us in the Midwest, Chik Fil A and Hobby Lobby are definitely coming for our money. There are three Chik Fil As in my immediate area that have gone up the last few years, and two Hobby Lobbys. I'm not a fried chicken eater or a crafter, so it's been easy to not go to either place. My kids are in college and so there's no "I won't drive you there", my son goes occasionally with friends, but prefers Cane's. I think Cane's might also be problematic, but my friend in there Southern Gay Community says Cane's is ok, so I'm going with that, lol.

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Virginia, this is 100% how I feel about aging! I wasn’t young and fun even as a kid, so taking the pressure off has felt amazing. I just want to watch Gardener’s World, drink herbal tea and wear comfortable shoes without feeling like there is something else I’m supposed to do.

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The blueberries don't make the smoothie grainy? Does that only happen if you add yogurt?

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They don't! I'm not sure why. I have had that problem with blackberries and raspberries though!

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Could you post a tick tock video of you making this smoothie?! Sitting in the car on a road trip dreaming of this smoothie and how can I make it when I get home …

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OMG, I totally could. Stay tuned.

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Oooh I would love this because I really want to try making it!

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Re the chic-fil-a question, I would recommend Break 'em Up: Recovering Our Freedom from Big Ag, Big Tech, and Big Money by Zephyr Teachout to absolutely everyone. The audiobook is also great

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