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A couple times a year I sponsor clothes for kids on an Indian reservation in South Dakota, and it is so hard to decipher what sizes to get because it's the parents or grandparents guessing what size their bigger-bodied kids would fit into, and it'll be, say, a size six for a two-year-old with a note going "size is correct," so, yeah, there are two-year-olds running around in pants that must be like 60% cuffs. Then at a certain point you get to the teenagers and have to wonder is this still in kids sizing or do they want adult sizes at this point.

It also makes me wonder how much of an effect the association of class and weight has on this -- if, in addition to everything else, brands assume that the people who most need inclusive sizing aren't going to buy enough or aren't going to buy high-end stuff, so capitalism says screw them.

Also, gotta say, today my son was wearing a pair of Tea Collection pants and they are super cute and also SO poorly made -- the things are a few months old and have a bunch of little holes already.

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“Labor intensive hemming,” so encapsulates my experience. Actually, I became quite the seamstress and not surprising, but all my experience is mostly with stretchy clothes and bathing suits. My kid also got my duper broad shoulders. In the 80s, I had to cut out sll the shoulder pads in my clothes then they laid perfect. I got 4 garbage bags of hand me down kids’ clothes, the first few months of my daughter’s life. The sizes were birth thru all the toddler sizes and some early elementary clothes. I thought I was set except I end up using them for her first year of life. If something wasn’t stretchy maybe she could wear it for a day or maybe she would not ever be able to wear it. I had a sewing machine in my closet that I bought in my mid twenties and took classes for because I was intimidated by it. Once my kid was born, I was so grateful for it. My kid grew so fast and just before she had a growth spurt, she would get super round. It was just her body’s process. I would scour thrift stores for cute cat patterned leggings for her or any animal print tops. Honestly, I wish we could have afforded Justice’s plus size girl clothes, but they were too expensive. Shorts were the worst because companies decided girls needed to wear short shorts, so I bought my kid the land’s end husky boys size even though we couldn’t really afford it. Because of my ability to sew and my own experience as a fat kid, I totally overcompensated by my kid having an extensive wardrobe. I wore men’s jeans and T-shirt’s that hid my body all through my youth. My husband and I have to do laundry every week to have enough clothes where my child can go several weeks. My kid loves clothing exchanges now because that is where a large majority of her clothes came from, our neighborhood clothing exchanges. My child’s best friend is on the extreme opposite end and up ‘till her friend was 8 was wearing my kids toddler clothes or the clothes I had made my kid for when she was a toddler. I get to see all the the clothes I altered on my child’s best friend, but from 6 years ago. I have also altered bathing suits and clothes for her best friend because otherwise her pants fall of and the pants for her small waist size and long legs. My husband decided he didn’t like pictures on his tshirts and they were heavy duty, soft, and had cute cartoons or great art on them. He bought a lot of the “Woot” shirts with custom art. He is a 3xl. I made a lot of my kid’s dresses and clothing from his old t-shirts. I feminized the shape and my kid had these cute long t-shirt dresses and then her friend wore them 5 yrs later. I feel so privileged that I can sew, so my kid never had to experience my limited selection of 3 pairs of men’s jeans, 2 pairs of men’s shorts, and a bunch of enveloping t-shirts which was what I mostly wore. I was really poor growing up and my sisters were tiny and thin.

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